Friends, Family & Carers Forum

[Lauz]

Thanks @JPJ - that's really interesting. Has anyone else had this kind of experience in terms of what wasn't working?

@Shaz51 - glad you both got home safe. We are going to talk soon about managing this together with your loved one and will look for some insights on that from you soon!

So everyone, feel free to also share what was it that DID help in the end? Meditation sounds like a good one - often breathing or breath work in the moment can help regulate the oxygen going to your brain which can help the heart rate and shallow breathing. Other things people have found?

[Former-Member]

It was a good 5 years after when I found out @Lauz by which stage his Dx had been changed. Along the way had an interim Dx of GAD , a personality disorder with anxious and avoidant features + more. 

[JPJ]

Holding his hands was all I could do that seemed to help. He would almost want to sit on top of me trying to get physically close

[Lauz]

Interesting @Former-Member - it can be hard to work through panic attacks vs an anxiety disorder too. Did Mr Darcy tell you anything about the experience of panic attacks? The anxiety can be a lot more chronic - wonder if anyone else here has noticed a difference in seeing anxiety in their loved ones versus a panic attack?

[JPJ]

I think it was the breathing instructions on the meditation that was super helpful rather than the actual meditating. A male slow voice telling him how to breathe

[Former-Member]

Yes @Lauz its very important to get the person to control their breathing. Try counting with them as they breathe in and out. Also try to help them to get into the here and now. Grounding exercises can help with this

[Adge]

So sorry I'm late @Lauz & everyone.

Thanks for your reminder tag.

I haven't had experience in supporting a loved one through a panic attack.

I had several panic attacks myself, today (a few hours ago).

Adge

[Shaz51]

it is unexpected and scary at the time @Lauz, you are not sure when it will appear

[JPJ]

There was a big difference between the panic attacks and the anxiety he now suffers. His panic attacks made him delirious, confused, sweaty, scared. His anxiety gives him migraines, sweats, nausea

[Lauz]

That's great that that helped @JPJ! Good to notice that a soothing male voice resonated with him too. 

here are some resources as well for other breathing techniques for anyone else here tonight. 

alternate nostril breathing technique  

controlled breathing techniques

@JPJ you mentioned that something that didn't work when your son was having a panic attack was talking him out of the panic attack - do you find that you can say other things to help or do you stay quiet with him?